Posts tagged parents of gay children
This post is for parents, or soon to be parents.
Have you ever thought, “What would I do if my child turned out to be gay?” I want to help answer that question.
First of all; parents, you love your children unconditionally, correct? Then, no matter what, you are still going to love them. Supporting them and their lifestyle may be difficult. We will get to that in a moment. The main piece of advice I want to offer is this; never, under any circumstances should you express prejudice in front of your children. Especially if you have any suspicion that a child of yours may be gay.
The next piece of advice is this; always encourage your children to come speak to you no matter what. that is why not to express prejudice in front of your children. If you speak badly about gays or lesbians, what is the likelihood that your child will come speak to you if they know how you really feel about gays and lesbians? Do not expect your children to come to you first, and under no circumstances confront them about any suspicions about their sexuality. They will come to you their own way, as long as they are comfortable talking to you about it.
Lets come back to the support factor if your child “comes out”. Depending on your own beliefs, being there for your children, supporting them, could be difficult for you. Always remember these are your children no matter what. Also remember being gay is hard enough, don’t make it worse. If you have a hard time with your children’s lifestyle, it is not their problem, it is your problem. If you are having an issue with a child being gay, I strongly recommend you find a support group, if none are available, find a friend you trust to speak to about it.
Being gay is difficult in itself, I can’t stress this enough. Having to stress about how our own parents feel about us should never be an issue.
There are two main lessons that I want to convey. First, do not expose your children to prejudice, that will leave you more open and trustworthy source for your children to come to, that goes for any situation, not just the gay issue. Second, and finally, support your children emotionally, and remember your problems are just that, your own problems. Find help if you need it.
My contact page is now open. I welcome anyone to contact me. If you need advice, or just someone to listen, I am here.