The journey of a southern gay man
Being Gay a Choice?
The biggest debate going on across the country is wether or not being gay is a chioce. This is a large debate in the southern states. Between companies having their employees sign anti gay agreements, to “Don’t Ask; Don’t Tell” being revoked. Politicians try to tell their supporters how being gay is a choice for gays and lesbians. This shows a complete lack of empathy. Anyone that attempts to tell people how they think and feel do not need to hold leadership roles. Have you ever heard a gay or lesbian tell their parents or anyone else for that matter, that being heterosexual is a choice?
Thanks to “that chick from ‘Sex in the City’”, this battle hasn’t gotten any better. She goes on national TV, and states that for her, being gay is a choice. This went wild in the gay community, because the years of progress lost.
Being gay or lesbian is NOT a choice! I knew when I was less than five years old, when I looked at TV programs differently. Of course I didn’t even know what gay meant at that age. I didn’t officially come out until I was 19, which was in 1999. I started noticing boys in 9th grade, of course there was nothing I could do about it back then in rural North Carolina. I had no interest seeing girls, I did try. I was just not interested in girls romantically, I don’t see that as my fault, and doesn’t appear that I had a choice.
I am trying to educate from the first person perspective. The debate over choice is not the only debate going on. I invite anyone that reads my blog to go to my facebook page here The Dragon Writer I welcome any questions or comments at all. I want to be a voice in our community.
This is such baloney — not your post but the issue — and I’m glad you brought it up. It’s friggin’ insulting and makes me want to tell people who think being gay is a choice, “So you’re choosing to be obtuse? Or are you just, in fact, ignorant?”
Harold, you are right, it is really not something we should even have to talk about. Those obtuse people make it that way.
Anyone who says that they are “choosing” to be gay is either lying or bisexual–which is a whole ‘nother ball of wax.
I haven’t heard of this “signing anti-gay agreements” and it’s making me boggle. What exactly where they having employee’s sign? I can’t wrap my brain around anything that would even remotely be legal.
There are some churches and large conservative owned corporations having employees sign documents stating they are not gay, and if it comes out that they are, is grounds for immediate termination. You wouldn’t think that this would be legal, but that is one of the current battles going on, discrimination based on sexual orientation is still legal because we are not a protected minority.
I appreciate your intention. But I don’t think the issue is too much important for debate. In a democrat region we should give proper respect to all equally. If some people want to live in this way then let them to be. We shouldn’t bother anyone’s choices. Anyway, thanks for your concern over the society.